K.I.S.S. = keep it simple "and" stupid

Feminism is all about the equality of the genders.

Nothing more, the rest of the discussion points comes down to talking about gender and issues with gender with deeper discussion and content.

I don't believe that women are telling me not to feel or have that discussion; however, it needs to be in the right place at the right time and with the right people.

If a guy does not have that, they need to find a therapist, religious person, a positive men's group "good men project here on medium is a good start", and start to work the issue.

If there is none of that, then as a guy I can tell you the easiest way forward is to find an entry level book to feminism, and follow the golden rule of life and my initial statement.

Treat every gender the same, and be consistent and clear and direct and "good", but most of all don't assume.

Then live your life and up your value as a human being. Be good at your job (or get one), live responsible, and treat people well and yourself. If you are CIS male and heterosexual, treat women well and listen and assume you get nothing and also assume they will by default assume the worst of you. Realize it isn't about you, but about the hundreds or thousands of guys before them that shafted them. Realize that this is a statistical small sample in a country of millions.

As for women, article like this are very important. Women have been fighting for equality since the mid to late 19th century. This has only really started for men really in the 21st century. Some men get it, some don't.

I have seen and interacted with quite a few women that embrace the toxic culture of femininity that was sparked by the toxic culture of masculinity. Quite a few have embraced the hate and trauma, and need time to unwind the pain. One can help women understand that there are decent and authentic masculine men out there, but it is nearly impossible for them to see.

Why? Society makes too much $$$ off of the dumpster fire of masculinity and wants men isolated to be controlled, so they always show the worst of the worst and given boys mimic the strongest of masculine characteristics since there is no real "male" marker for men (outside of hair growing and the t-juice surge) ... it isn't easy.

I will never downplay the shit show women have had to deal with over the decades, but for women there are groups to bond with and get protection. There is also the ability to look in the mirror and realize "that I am not the enemy". While men when they wake up in a bad place have the view of "I am the enemy".

I have fought through the battles and am damaged but always getting stronger. I have to fight the battles of stoicism as I age on this planet we all live on.

Be well.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.