Lindz as you should. Your self care and concern is paramount. Folks also realize too that it is ok to be single and alone too. Life is about choices, one can be partnered and coupled together “if both” partners are treated with the full respect, love, and concern for each other equally and consensually.
For all others fuck them.
Just be careful just like exercise hardens the body, repetitive action also does the same thing to the mind and soul. Just realize in doing so you will start to live in the downside that men have lived with for centuries.
You bring up the most important point … the circle of friends one accumulates matters greatly.
Personally, as I had to fight my battles 100% alone and by myself with no help … it broke me in certain areas of intimacy that I long to reconnect. My share is that others don’t fall into that trap, as I know seeing the look in other men’s eyes in those personal hells it is not a fun place to be.
So make sure you have the balance, and hopefully to improve points of view there are men that can be on the edges of the circles that you can learn to trust as long as they earn it.
There are a lot of low quality and shallow men out there due to the patriachy. The thing is … a lot of them lack the tools to fix themselves so they flail and become toxic to everyone around them while they figure it out. Our society will just have to learn to deal with it as men explode until what is left is decent (hopefully our society is still around).