Love everything in this article.

The one area as a guy that just makes me feel ick or toxic is this. I get it as it has been defined as “big dick energy”, etc.

I also have experienced this too, but as a guy I have observed when guys try to do this, a lot of times the sex feels empty.

Women deserve a guy that truly deserves them and desires them, but I wonder if this desire for that kind of confidence is toxic to men and relationships as a whole.

If a woman truly is liberated and horny for a guy, should not she show the loud kittie roar (my attempt to call BDE in women) and go and grab what she wants and needs?

I do appreciate the safety factor, and other aspects too so no shame in that and f*ck off to those who slut shame etc .

Right now men are listless, the ability to give what women desire is rapidly being ripped away by society for good and bad reasons.

Some men have abandoned it all, and some guys have had their desire flames blown out and when they attempt to connect in civil ways the pilot light can no longer be lit.

Of course men own this … but you are right it will take time to be organic.

The issue is women will get a taste of the dark world boys feel when the hormone bomb goes off and they feel the rejections and isolation and loneliness of being horny and alone for long period of times.

Only the elite athletes and stud boy models don’t feel this, but these guys deal with the issue of only being desired for their packaging.

As for guys today, we as a society need to figure out how to build authentic men with real confidence built on real things. As I am a guy, I don’t know if that is what does it for women. I do know though as it was shared to me by a few friends over the years, I lack that detection ability of when women are really into me.

Love this article as it was very helpful to me.


Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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