Most women don’t and that is actually on men for not sharing constructively, hence why this article is so important.

If we treat feelings and fears as non-gender specific, it can be an extra level of “fun” when you are both the victim and the aggressor at the same time (per societies rules).

The closest analogy I can try to quantify for you or women is the feeling of not feeling like a woman after finding out one is infertile. If one can take that feeling and experience and initiate it at any moment where someone says “man up”, and imprint that from the age of 8 and combine it with the fact baby boys and younger boys are touched and nurtured less then girls …. boom.

I believe there was a woman who appeared manly went undercover as a man (i.e. she went through full disguises for a full year). What she found shattered her and every opinion she had leveled her personally. I would have to go look for it but I believe she even wrote a book about it.

Don’t get me wrong, women have the epic shit show and any man no matter the damage has zero right to push his trauma onto another, but one thing I have observed is this.

Women by default are seen as life bearers and givers (from the vantage of birth)

Men by default are seen violence givers (i.e. death providers).

Women don’t feel safe and men feel fear and are scared to default to that.

Some folks will respond “not all” and of course they are right, but we are talking about societal expectation.

Good talking to you and I hope you have a great day.


Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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