My assumption in my response (and maybe I should have called that out) is that men do have to step up and as such I agree with some of the aspects that were stated in the article.

Men do need to step up and make it happen (that is a requirement); however, the next response after men do the step up and repeatedly continue it is women on the back side need to focus on those areas in return.

So to back out from a patriarchal position men have to make that first step and lead, then step to the side and support. However, women need to be ready to also make some of the things I am suggesting also in return. If life is too simulate a dance between two partners (using the genders in that example), it takes two to tango.

I am assuming enthusiastic and ethical consent when it comes to sex (to me that is non-negotiable). As such that is a baseline assumption, what I am talking about is the strong preferences that has been steady state in our society. It is why I stated it in a ratio aspect, I am not say it is an all or nothing thing. People are going to like and desire what they want; however, women need to understand how “much” emotional and physical stress is put on men with that he needs to chase, or be the stud, or any of the traditional “take me”. Of course I do understand it isn’t a brute force type of desire (maybe for some), it is a I really want you to want me all the way through 100%.

I am a male feminist, I read actively on feminism (I test more slanted towards radical/black feminist bent), I subscribe to bust and bitch media and make sure that I keep an eye out on guys when out and at work. I also try to make sure I am a complete person and that means in my partnership at home, I do more then my fair share of the relationship and homestead aspects.

The areas I continue to work hard on is the emotional labor aspects as with my traumas and how I was brought up … I was highly damaged. I have posts and responses here on Medium you can see, and I can share directly if you wanted to know. Long story short … I get it as I experienced it.

I did like the article very much, and it had great points, I just wanted to also add some extra to it and extra for food for thought.

Cheers and be well and have a fantastic day/weekend/week!

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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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