After a man (let’s call him Sam) penetrates every woman humanly possible during his bachelor years, he settles down and marries a church mouse, a so-called good girl, a woman he can take home to momma. Let’s call her Mary. Stereotypically, she’s a woman who hasn’t had much or any sexual experience and thinks his penis is the greatest. With her limited relationship and sexual history and knowledge, she’s completely satisfied with her decision to settle down with Sam.
My favorite song from that era that I would get played was MC Lytes "Keep on, Keepin' On.
I would tell them (remember this was the 90s :) ), I want my liberated ho, to be sliding fly to this with me.
I would highlight all of this, but no woman would ever be looked down on for wanting hers.
I had real trauma ... but this paragraph fits the current issue in my life to a fucking tee.
It took breaking the back of male fragility and the damage from the toxic culture of masculinity (note the word choice as I prefer this use [and I learned about it in therapy in 2016/2017].
Becoming a feminist after my ex-girlfriend who was a feminist called me gay and asking for it after an ED event a few days after the rape.
I wish I had gone to the police, got therapy, and then called out my ex-GF for not being human and being fake. Cest la vie.
So .. what a fantastic article and you really covered everything so damn well. I wish men would seriously understand slaying the dragon means defeating your fears in your soul and embracing women and their liberation.
Women should be able to be safely 100% to be the freak in the sheets and streets, and men should support them 100%. Conversely, women should also empower and support the true stud in the streets where they master and dominate their fears and pursue peace and non-conflict resolution with their mouths and not their fists.
Your writing is amazing, and the quality of your words and the punch of them makes you a tremendous asset to the world.