My partner's business is in horses. She does amazing back breaking things. Her body is in pain, and I can't get her to go to the doctor to deal with it.
I purchased a massage chair like you would see in an airport. I now try to give her a 15-30 minute massage every day.
Is it erotic? No, is it based in love and intimacy? Hell yes.
Am I horny as I rub her (you betcha), but I focus that energy on working out the pain.
If she desires more, all she has to do is ask for it, but like most massage places it is up to the massagee to ask for the happy selection on the menu.
If my current partnership ends, that is something that a future partner will know before we hit the sack. Erotic massages? [check].