My past traumas caused me to basically only be able to orgasm through prone masturbation and PIV. What no one tells you when you fall into the masturbation like this is it gives you the mother of all stamina in sex, and can lead to retarded and delayed ejaculation.

So there has been times (many) in fact with my current partner she orgasms and I don't.

So for years I worked on breaking the triggers which prevented the way "most" guys masturbate (hand) and won that battle a few years ago. Oral is still the "final frontier" and since my partner is a no-way jose to oral (and she doesn't even desire it from me which I actually love to give).

Life can be a struggle. So I can truly say I empathize, and it epically sucks.

That being said ... I am all in for orgasm equality and bring out the toys and the roleplay and all that (presuming my current relationship ends). In fact, if I connect with a woman who falls into this I will make sure she catches up as I see that as a sign as breaking the damage from the patriarchy.

It is also a core thing if I am mated again to another person if they needs more and variety because they have held back. She has my consent as long as she is honest and true and the minute she starts to catch "Feelings" communication happens. If it is super serious and this switches from a monogamy to something more ... that is fine but talk talk talk.

So game on women ... make sure your partner gives you the space to enjoy the pleasure and intimacy you want they way you want and how you want.

As for catch up as I am very kink friendly, I have soo many fun ways to play that game to raise the female orgasm counter ...

Be well and keep safe

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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