Never repress what interests you, fascinates you, drives you, inspires you, angers you, or any other emotion in the main rainbows of drive in our humanity.

It amazes me that if something rises a charge in another person based upon the “pen”, which we know is mightier than the sword, that the person doesn’t look at it and say …. why did I feel that.

Why does this person anger me or inspire me. I believe for some guys a woman that challenges them, excites them at a level, and then when they realize that they are shallow, binary or could never compete with the raw power of that woman … get angry because they realize they will never even come close to having a chance.

So instead of saying, damn I suck and that is ok …. how can I learn from her so I can be better and if not with her … with someone like her or hell if the guy improves himself radically …. someone even better …

They lash out like a child in a sandbox who has to learn to share the fire truck with another child.

It is epically sad on so many levels.

I as a guy have had to live with shame with my sexual interests and kinks. I have also had my masculinity completely and utterly destroyed. So for me and for guys to maybe understand, when I see women who have filtered themselves, who have had to hold back how and what gives them great joy and succeed, it gives me strength to step a little bit closer to the light.

If a guy truly understood what I call the little glass boy in every man with the hot intense flame, watch get it broken by another and pulverized into fine grains of silica with the shards looking at each other asking and screaming “why me” … they would realize the slut shaming, the shoving of a person into a tiny box like some asian cultures who bind women’s feet …. is beyond horrible.

So why would you desire to bind a rich and warm and wonderful sharing human being with the vines of despair, thorns of pain, and attempt to constrict them into the dark woods of hell, when the human can run free in the pastures, happy and laughing and in turn help you feel good?

I just literally don’t get it.

I love when women share themselves on a wide level of subjects which include sex, because it personally makes me help “Feel”.

That little boy I talked was a pile of silica at the end of a dark abyss for decades while the darkness tried to suck it in. Do you want to be that dark passenger sucking a soul to never be found again? Or do you want to help bring it into the light and help reshape and rebuild the humanity in all of us.

*This* IS a binary choice …. you either do it …. or you walk away and say meh you suck and I don’t care ….

Support women, support mindfully masculine men, raise boys into good men, raise girls into independent and strong women, support all sexualities and views as long as they don’t harm, and most of all never judge or restrict a person based on their color. ….

Please continue to write about sex, your deepest desires, your craziest thoughts, your deepest anger …. and please please please limit your editing to be no more then 1/4 of the time it took to write it initially.

I want to see your anger, your lust, your love, and your passion because it showcases your deep empathy and intelligence.




Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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