No consent, you were raped. I was assaulted by a guy in the same way who thought my ass and build was fantastic while I was passed out.

I had a feminist girlfriend who didn’t believe me either and stated I was gay, and it destroyed my masculinity along with the assault.

I dumped her and sadly I labeled all feminists as damaged.

It took two decades plus to unwind that, and I realized she exhibited toxic femininity and what pop culture calls a Karen.

I am sorry you experienced what you did I feel so fell for you. If I was in person I would ask … may I give you a hug, if not may I hold your hand while we sit here and you release the tears once again.

P.S. I am a feminist, and now classify as a pansexual.

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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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