Oh so much all of this, good people, smart people, rich people, hot people are deeply layered.
When one rushes through the hormonal dance hard and fast it is like poking a pointed stick through paper. Sure it is pleasurable, but hard and fast stabbing removes the critical words you might want to know later.
It is one thing to capture the essence of a woman or man. To grab it and release it, but that joy is fun but fleeting.
If you learn to read the users manual of the other person and help them to understand yours, then watch out as the act of turning you on and spinning you out of control when they grab control is Nirvana which by the fact you used a process and a manual means it can be repeated and expanded on. That process is friendship, the manual is active listening and talking and bonding.
Then when the hot and heavy hormones come in … watch out as one will use it to cook the bedroom, bubble the waters in the bath of love, and create a hot sauna like passion.
When the two are done being one, then you run naked into the cold water pool.of friendship, yelping at the sweet sweat being washed away. Playing together like children and loving each other.
Then you leave and go down for a nice dinner where you talk about whatever and when dessert comes you say can we take this to our room? Strawberries and cream and champagne sounds nice.
None of that happens if one just bum rushes into a bar late at night. Dont get me wrong that has a place, but why not have multiple helpings of joy when the only thing you need to realize is that friendship with deep love and intimacy is the final goal.