Ok. Porn is bad/criminal. Now what? What is your input to the discussion?

I understand and get consent “a lot” more than most guys since I am a rape victim, so before you go and “assume” you know me don’t. Try to respect me without the trolling please.

Therapy is needed for this couple, and boundaries obviously need to be reworked. A person should never “ever” submit to sex if they are uncomfortable.

If one partner has a higher libido than the other, and sexual intimacy is not able to be done, then expectations on fidelity and sexual intimacy may need to be rediscussed and redefined along with the rules of commitment. A Higher Libido person who is not having their needs met by their partner have a right to end the relationship, or else may need to allow openness and flexibility.

My view is looking at the intimacy and discussion as a process of communication and boundary setting between two partners and not one where a gulf of nothing/silence is.

On the other side of the house, having a discussion about personal sexual intimacy problems without the husband co-authoring it or having it stated in the article says what also?

BTW: I have found as couples age, the roles reverse a huge portion of the time. Quite a few women that I am platonic with have been the ones with the higher libido and not the men and some have reverted to cheating or cuckolding their partners ….