One might say if there are no fights there is no passion or love or relationship.

Do note that the fight should be verbal and never physical or abusive either.

You hit it as always on the head! It is about the fantasy of the relationship, not the relationship.

One of my weaknesses has been to people please and take care, but as I have aged I realize that even with golden intentions and notable execution, it sometimes will come across as a person that looks like they are trying to control.

The key battles in life are trying to break those patterns, and move forward. If not ... read more about Carlyn love of midevil devices meant to keep men in check ... :D