One of the things I learned (pansexual, CIS-male, natural switch) from my therapy work and rebooting my masculinity (which I am very masculine in person), is that the therapist suggested I actively use porn and trans-women who were intact.
I needed to break the cycle of fear and also to help me understand the masculine and feminine spirits within me to fix it.
She also stated if I was single, she highly recommend I date a transgender person as part of my healing process. Of course she stated, it is the person and not the gender or sexuality too.
This summer a few years after those session which were challenging, I got it. I also learned an appreciation that CIS and heterosexual people could learn so very much from those that are transgendered understand so much of themselves from people who had to deal with this.
I love people with alpha feminine spirits (I love biological women deeply too), so as I learned and read and trusted strong and liberated women I got to see the beauty of masculinity where I had zero confidence in body and mind and gender.
I also see the power in your words too. So thank you for sharing, and I hope you find your "stud" of your dreams to tame the wild woman in the heart.