One other comment is what you desire and want is wrong, bad or evil. It is a nature of the beast for heterosexual relationships. The Genders have two very unique sets of problems and issues and our communication methods are radically different.
It leads to great pain and joy. Sexual intimacy is a gift not a privilege. It is that magic sauce that empowers a deeper bond, growth and color to life. Alone we are black and white, together (and this runs the same for LGBTQ+ views) we engaged a multitude of brilliant and beautiful colors.
Both men and women deserve as a right to feel safe, loved and empowered. Sex that is transnational based does not empower, improve safety, and engage growth. Love in taking care of another person’s needs which may or may not include sexual relief is what humans need most.
Read “The Power” if you want to have an alternative fictional possible view if the roles were swapped. Conversely if men were required for a year post birth to take care of a child solo and with sexual relations if there were ways were men “were taken” sexually, one has to wonder if relations would be in a better place.
A friend of mine always joked with me when I had relationships issues and I vented he would say … “Al … why don’t you switch teams and then all that heterosexual drama goes away, since a guy knows how to communicate and take care of guy properly …” I said thanks dude … for caring about me … totally, but hey can’t we just be friends please.