One person looks at a number and yells "6", and another looks at a number and yells "9". Then they start an argument, wondering ... what is the perspective difference?
Men observe dating and mating through a masculine perspective which is different then a woman's. The lens of sophistication is different "vastly".
Women look at more then the outer package when making that decision, while men look at a different set of attributes.
The key thing is breaking through one's assumptions and biases and questioning one's own filters.
So in the beginning it is harsh for men in certain things as it is for women.
E.g. how many articles do we see from a woman perspective who maybe dick blind and 3-12 months later in a relatinoship say WTF ... you lied to me?
Their are others dying of masculine water and are deeply thirsty who don't want to lose hope or the view of a better tomorrow, who cross their boundaries to find out while it looked clean and pure it was salty AF.
Men have their own versions of what the hell too.
The most amazing and beautiful thing is women now have more safety and security to have the power and ability to have the boundaries and sex and intimacy they want on their terms. We can observe how women work hard to provide and fulfill themselves first and then add a partner.
Women do due it right ... there are bad actors, but given the fear of life and trying to be an equal partner the base they built is good.
The issue I see is women have no real idea what is up and going on with masculinity. That is a fault of men of not communicating and educating themselves, but also there are shades (not 100% fault) of women assuming the patterns used to build themselves up will work for men.
So my view is in the 80/20 view, it really probably is 90/10 and the guy has to ask.
Do I have the authentic masculinity and relationship skills to be able to do the emotional and mental dance to be able to enjoy the intimacy dance.
So while the incel calls out a physical attribute, he shows that not only does he not understand the feminine, he doesn't even understand the masculine.
With that ... why would a woman desire to trust her safety to someone that doesn't know much?
