One should be able to enjoy beauty and attractiveness; however, it needs to be balanced with the experience of consent.

In our society it is well documented there is white male privilege, but what also sometimes is not talked about but is the big elephant in the room is "pretty privilege".

Does one get followed because the packaging is attractive, how deep does this go and what happens.

There is another fantastic female author who is attractive but curvy, and in the traditional sense some guys would attack her because of her weight. Put your words and articles next to her, and some guys might scroll on by and not respond or read.

I have personally known in my earlier days some really attractive women who were dateless on some nights, because guys (or gals) were afraid to approach.

So one maybe blessed with the packaging to draw a bunch of folks near, but then may blind people to actually seeing what is inside.

All of these negative effects are all forms of objectification that can cross the gender and sex spectrum.

We all want the best of the best, because by default a person will believe they are unique and awesome (and if people are not toxic they really are). The big question is not projecting thirst on to the person in front of you, and learning to listen to the person as a human being. Save the "objectification" based desire after consent is given in safe spaces between two people (or more if so inclined) where that icing to the cake of the engagement can be enjoyed with the personality cake of life.