Read Carlyn Beccia another fantastic author, and yep her analysis is spot on.
Honestly, if I was single and I was a person that another person found reasonably ok to say ... lets go have a dinner and/or drinks?
I wouldn't be on an app. The closest thing you would see is this exactly right here.
Now I can't imagine the hellscape, and frankly from my position of supposed power (ha but I get it). All I know is given the testing and hells, I don't blame women for testing away over and over. It would require engagement, but given the area I am now.
There are a lot of conservative folks out there, and I know I probably would be too much.
I am super happy as you "keep on keeping on", that you found a good base to rise from. I have no doubt you will find your zen and happiness. Good people always do.