Relationships now thankfuly (presuming high quality) is about partnership, load sharing, and companionship.

The karmic balance of you get what you give falls into place.

So you are doing the right thing, by bettering yourself. Work hard, and if you are alone take the time to exercise and work on general health to keep up balance. Self love where and when you can (e.g. go grab a massage on a regular basis so you can have stress reduced "and" have the ability to have human touch.

But most importantly, show you are high value, have standards, and have the reserves to help make women (or partners of your choice) feel safe and secure and loved.

Remember you are worth something to someone and the important things are to show kindness, empathy, and respect for whom you find attractive.

It is a dance, and it isn't easy, but it is worth it.

The other thing I would suggest is befriend the type of people that you would find yourself wanting to have a relationship with. If they see you aren't just in it for the "sex", you maybe surprised at how some will explode into action for authentic masculinty is not something seen often.