Relationships that last more then the infatuation phase are grounded in compromise and partnership. Women that are in the lead or pole position, and have had to fight hard and within a patriarchal construct need to realize that means zero when it comes to the home and relationship.

In today's society there is no affirmative action for men in relationships as a counter point in the professional and business world. Do women have the same luxuries? No, but they have built structures to talk and work together "on average" in excess to what men have had. Men do not have this same structures that can evolve in the 21st century 140 years after the femmist movements have started.

There is no doubt there is a toxic culture of masculinity which breeds male fragility and what not, but given that toxic soup that tosses men into a "man box". Women given equality and more power are emulating the same patterns men have, as such we are seeing the rise of toxic culture of femininity which is just as brutal as it's dance partner.

The successful women CEOs who understand this dynamic, are the ones finding for the current time those diamonds in the rough for long term partnership.

Men have a lot of work to generate the authentic masculinity that women are craving and desiring and this is why when one looks at the math equations in the mating and dating within a CIS heterosexual assumed view, 80-90% of the women fight for the 10-20% of the men available.

The math behind it is very brutal and even then it isn't right or correct since it is bringing logic to preferences and illogical/irrational decisions we all make when dating and mating and long term relationships.

So what to do? Right now media and society are full of a lot of people "talking" about authentic masculinity which would empower men that fit the mold you discuss. The problem is if you look at the genders writing it the hyper majority is women, and one can find it hard to find suitable and acceptable content, since it is a view of what one gender wants and desires of the opposite gender. So in a sad way women and men are SOL in getting this resolved.

It is warped in a big way because one would assume that a leader of people would be able to work through the chaff in the pool and find what is needed to meet the demand and need of the person.

The thing is a Women CEO as described has a highly specialized set of needs which in reality for any real human being should be the standard of relationships.

Instead we have it in a competition view instead of a partnership, since there is no winner or loser in relationships. You either have a relationship or doesn't and if it isn't balanced you don't have a relationship or partnership.

Can men do this? Absolutely, but if we use the work and professional paradigm it is similar in a lot of ways to women breaking into fields where they are the solo person. This is where quite a few men are.

Do make note if you do have that confident man and have the relationship, do take care since every day after the celebrations of it being a "boy" after birth, society punishes men into the man box every second of every moment until the eulogy. It is relentless, and it will show up as ED, and stocisms and other things in semi-functioning relationships.

Be well and I hope you find what you seek!




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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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