Remember the core difference between you and me is two decades or so. I have experienced and seen and evolved. The core question you need to truly ask yourself is do you want to love and be with your whole heart even if it means crashing and burning hard.

Or do you want to do it in a measured and logical way because you don’t believe you can handle a full and hard crash.

Neither situation is bad mate. What you need to do is ask yourself, what do you have to offer and give to your partner for life (or part of your life). Does that person provide a complimentary service back, and make sure that you measure up and ensure you have core compatibility in communication, sexual/intimacy, physical, and life goals (education, kids, movements).

Not everyone has the ability to love unconditionally, and that is ok.

But remember to love unconditionally would mean a man who may prefer to be pro-life still sticks by his partner if she has an abortion and she is pro-choice. Life and relationships are all about compromises and loyalty and communication. It is the “child” and product of two or more people and it does not have a gender or sexuality tied to it.

It is both the best and hardest thing you will ever do in your life.


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