She doesn't have these fantasies, I have had a few women in my past that have.
I have thought about how to satisfy their needs while making sure I wasn't triggered. If a future partner had this desire, you betcha I would make it hot AF.
Then since I have found a few of the partners had spanking enjoyment. After that fun was done, well I would come home and since she was a wonderful little liberated woman but a dirty slut of the best kind she would have to be spanked (only after aftercare).
As for my current partner, I love her don't get me wrong. But her sexuality is very very limited, maybe I blame myself for such a colorful past and she looks down on herself knowing this (she has stated she heard all about my life and stories and wanted to taste and she knew it was not "guy boasting".)
It is one of the hardest thing for a couple to realize, when one's sexualities are limited in the worst venn diagram sort of way.
But ... as I have shared I am a loyal guy, I want to try every possibility to keep it going, as I believe in fighting for a relationship.
That being said I can't lie, I can only imagine what life would be with a person with lots of wonderful kinks and edges and other crazy needs.
So again I don't blame her, I own part of this too, but it is sad because if her walls came down she has no idea what things could be done. Conversely, though the animals might not get fed and I may suck at my job since like two birds copulating in flight .... one has to learn to detach before hitting the ground. :)