So many times no … standards and expectations are there for a reason.
The key thing people need to understand is that one need to find the balance between what should be a standard versus one that is a desire.
Anything that relates to personal safety, comfort, and future potential should always be kept. Those the reflect a packaging aspect or particular sexual needs should be realized and rationalized as desires and wants. Folks should achieve their happiness as long as consent and a balance is made between themselves and others (I e. Give and take).