So much great advice here, the greatest organ for creating orgasms is your mind. The next greatest organ is your heart. Mother Nature/God(dess)/Higher power, gave you as a man "a lot" of appendages to use during intimacy.

Use them all. Take care of them all, and remember you have one life to give and if you value your pleasure, realize her time and body is precious.

Sex without intimacy, communication, openness, and honesty is just mutual masturbation at worst and transactional sex at best. There is zero wrong with "getting" some, but realize you are a slave to your own hormones. You are 1/2 the person you believe yourself to be.

Know what is great sex? Being the full person and empowering your parter to go beyond the other 1/2 that is her.

Don't get me wrong, the lust cycles is "fantastic". Riding an elevator of love, hitting the top floor and mating as it drops without breaks from the highest building is thrilling.

But how often will that happen and for how long?

A great conversation starter I used in so many bars in Europe and the USA was this.

You will have sex 50,000 times in your life. Do you want to have sex with one person 50,000 times or sex once with 50,000 people. There is no wrong answer and I won't judge.

One really switched on business woman grabbed my knee in San Francisco and said, mr. smartypants. What say you?

One person, which I am currently with. Why? Because you can have the perfect sex with a person once and that is it and the other 49,999 will pale in comparison. With the one person if you do it right, each time will get better and then perfection will be achieved, and the sex and intimacy will exceed the combination of all 50K.

Shit she said ... raised her hand and stated get this man another Manhatten up and shaken like he likes it. Little did I noticed she noticed how I drank it.

That is what is awesome about women. They notice things about people they are interested in, so men should take notes.

There are days I count my blessing that dumb ole guys have been blessed with the beauty, intelligence and finesse of women. They are the 8th wonder of the world.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.