Standards are excellent, and bottom barrelling unless there is something you want and get out of the partner is a-ok in my book.

Better to have that wine at home, a good romance/erotic book/movie/imagination. Take "me" time and take care of yourself, then waking up while his mother asks you how you like your eggs.

Wife is at a horse show, had to pick up parts for some crypto-gear that broke down so I decided on Italian at a place that makes a good martini. I had a Reacher novel, and was just happy. Attractive woman "my age" came in to place her order and have a drink and appetizer to take food back for her and her husband.

We had a great talk (she ran restaurants for over 24 years) and she brought about her son. Not getting a job, 30 and taking forever to get an IT degree. How it came up was discussion about labor shortages, and I joked so he was 51% of the husband and not her right.

She laughed loudly and stated 1st marriage, and then I said 70% then. She laughed harder. Great "mature" discussion, and she dragged out eating and then we went on our way.

Folks that drop into intimacy should be able to have conversations as two human beings at a bar with no issues. It should be able to evolve and have some depth, otherwise, what is the point?

So bravo to you, I wouldn't personally (IMO) call it high standards, I would call it appropriate standards.

Sparks are great, but make sure they are about hot connections, and some good back and forth, and not electrical sparks from an exploding plug.