That is why I have called those women that do this as toxic femininity instead of the labeling of the name “the karens”.
I had to go through the process of handling this with a few women that helped me that later turned hard on me in the worst possible way (they were SJW types who had a madonna/guru woman appeal they pontificated). On the traditional side, I had very conservative women friends who were all smiles to you and then behind your back stabbed you.
I moved on from them.
I have decades of experience with men behind closed doors to know exactly how they are. I am an ex-jock so I have seen the best and worst of it all (trust me it isn’t pretty).
I have said this before, I do dream and hope where there is a balanced society where gender and sexuality and identity truly doesn’t matter and people are people. I am here to fight for this.
The problem for some women when they deal with men is some nefarious men have weaponized this openness in the pursuit of sexual gratification (i.e. transactional intimacy).
As a share for definitions … I am a demisexual, pansexual, CIS feminist male, who has a very strong and loving preference for women but not limited to them. To me having someone truly be open and honest and communicating is what I live and love for.
I am also a very strong protector male spirit and gender that has been destroyed by life (I have real traumas to back this and I get the pain women have dealt with intimately).
I am a guy as a woman who is scared of storms can safely come and get a hug and be held during a nasty storm and know she is 100% safe.