The difference between a biological male with incel attitudes and one with excel attitudes is that if the end goal fails, he learns to listen to his partner and asks.
What is wrong, what is hurting you?
What can I do to help you feel better and whole?
Would you like to stop and just cuddle?
What things do I do turn you off and what things can I do to turn you on?
But faking is something no human should ever do. If as a man a woman lets me finish for my sake, then I definitely need to thank her for the extra labor she just had to do for my sake
Porn has a place, but zero place in matters of the heart and communication between two people. It can be used as an aid to help communicate desires and learn things together.