The food for thought for guys that was able to read all the way through …

To be able to truly have a fantastic relationship with a woman you have to understand both the range and limitations of both your masculine and feminine spirit within you.

If all you do is focus on the masculine side, you will never know if the woman you want to be with is toxic or the perfect fit.

My view in “dealing with things in my life i.e. real issues” was every person has a dial 0–10 of masculine and a dial of 0–10 of feminine. The sum of the dials can’t exceed 10 …. and BTW the dials change as you age, as you learn and grow. So if you desire the perfect mate you need to find the settings that match your “frequency”.

So that does mean if you find a fantastic ultra femme CIS male who is transitioning … you may fall just in love as much as a CIS female. It is your soul and spirits that matters the most and people love and are intimate with each other’s souls not body ….

If the later is the case (and that is ok too) it is reach for being able to release sexual tension and energy in a mutual release kind of way …

I believe that guys (Traditional) could learn so much from lesbians and platonic gay men that could help elevate their relationship experience because they are in touch with both sides of their inner being.

Thanks for the article.


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