The fundamental question of life, do you want thousands of people getting drawn to the first 1/8th inch of your exterior and never going any further?
Do you want to find those few people that want to look at the deeper part of 1/8th inch and really dig deep into the person?
It feeds into a bar question I would always bring up.
You are going to have sex 50,000 times in your life, do you have it 50,000 with one person or one time with 50,000 people. No answer is a wrong answer.
Each edge of the identity sword cuts hard in different ways and it yet it hurts the same.