The greatest example of this in modern life is the "hot for teacher" sexual abuse where an attractive teacher molds and shapes a young boy with sex.
Watch people's reactions and how they act not understanding that the boy literally has been destroyed for life in normal sexual engagement and interactions.
I do get what you are saying though (#metoo), but to be honest gender doesn't matter as much as rape is rape and power play.
If you are raped by a male and you are a CIS-Het, then you are gay
If you are raped by a female and you are a CIS-het, you are a beta loser and not a man.
Either way you are never believed, so that goes into my saying.
If women are hardly believed, men never are.
To share my share ...