The hard part of being a man is realizing in some thing the best I can hope for is to be complimentary to my female partners in life. My fiercely anti-feminist but beyond independent and strong wife (I call it the redhead strength) in some ways is more man than I am. That does make it hard but I do try to be stronger and better as a human being.
How do I say this …. just yesterday while fighting a horse and seeing it throw her leg into metal piping she kept going on. Chuckling about how football players complain about a little 300lb player hitting them when she just had 1000lb.
Meanwhile I continue to push hard to deal with the fact I couldn’t deal with life’s traumas and ate and drank too much for decades and am fighting to get all the weight off and back to the shape I was. Can’t cook but she can … I realize I am lucky to have a strong woman in my life, and it makes me push to do that 10–15K of walking 3–6x a week now.
I am feminist and most folks that don’t know me (since I am large and can appear menacing) will never understand how I am thankful I became a feminist to help become a better man through respecting women.
If a guy can’t understand that aspect … learn from your mistake, be thankful for your female partners in life that stick around and grow and learn, and try to be one of the better human beings.