The hard part of being a man is realizing in some thing the best I can hope for is to be complimentary to my female partners in life. My fiercely anti-feminist but beyond independent and strong wife (I call it the redhead strength) in some ways is more man than I am. That does make it hard but I do try to be stronger and better as a human being.

How do I say this …. just yesterday while fighting a horse and seeing it throw her leg into metal piping she kept going on. Chuckling about how football players complain about a little 300lb player hitting them when she just had 1000lb.

Meanwhile I continue to push hard to deal with the fact I couldn’t deal with life’s traumas and ate and drank too much for decades and am fighting to get all the weight off and back to the shape I was. Can’t cook but she can … I realize I am lucky to have a strong woman in my life, and it makes me push to do that 10–15K of walking 3–6x a week now.

I am feminist and most folks that don’t know me (since I am large and can appear menacing) will never understand how I am thankful I became a feminist to help become a better man through respecting women.

If a guy can’t understand that aspect … learn from your mistake, be thankful for your female partners in life that stick around and grow and learn, and try to be one of the better human beings.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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