The incest/taboo part for me not there, but I do agree with the desiring of porn that is surrounding trauma and other issues.

Why? Your mind and body is trying to process a disgust or pain and replace it with pleasure to neutralize it.

It is the same rational about how some rape victims have a desire to be taken in power play by their partners with consent. They want the bad imagery and feelings replaced with good ones. They want to he power to control it and own it and master it. It is what I call slaying the anxiety and fear demon, with the power of your hand or vibrator or partner or whatever you use to get off.

I figured this out when I said gee Al, why do you like BDSM, what is up with race , gender roles reversal, and power play. I am not anywhere near those things. Anal is another thing.

I have had events in my life and I have had friends who were impacted that I cared for deeply. I want to process and remove that from them.

What my porn doesn’t have is the brutal objectification and society evil that we say day to day in it. E.g. if a woman is being objectified it is because you can see she wants it and consented to it. For some guys in most of their porn it is hard and fast and one can see consent isn’t there. Ugh no, but if you see the woman wants to take on the basketball team and is hot for it because her sexuality is that ramped. Game on.

Porn like substances found in nature can be life sustaining, can be miraculous, but if consumed too much can be deadly also.

Folks should enjoy themselves, but also have a think when they aren’t killing or jacking themselves off to why does this make me go yum.

For guys, who we know are visual. Make sure you consume erotica, especially if it is written by women. Why? It allows you if single or partnered to transition your urges in a way that ups your success rate with the opposite gender. I also recommend you pick up a romance novel and a feminist or book about women and their struggle. I know you will say dude that is such a boner killer. That is not my point. When the sex is done, one needs to be able to talk about other things. Call the other books fertilizer for the deep rich soul you want to tend and manage.

Trust me, both genders have a lot of fertile things to do to each other because we were meant to enjoy each other.

One last point. When consuming the delicious eye candy, the thing that always gets me, is when I see the woman getting hers and wanting to want to do what she is doing. It is the most beautiful site that usually makes my vision disappear and a deep animalistic moan come out.

Be well all.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.