The key as I have found is after consent is done "and" after two people have spent time getting to know each other where their is a repeated pattern and communication, where a woman states.

Honey, I would love it if sometime when you feel the urge to come take me when you desire me, and these are some things I really like when you do that.

I believe if this became the norm and women felt safe, guys would learn really fast that women are extremely interested in sex and want it a lot.

Then the super stud would be that guy that a woman sees at a bar talking happily with another woman who looks interested in him and wants to engage.

As for the "sex" appeal, I realize I got to observe this when I was in college. I had a friend who transferred to Purdue. We were buddies, and I crashed at his place a few times and even visited his family in South Bend. I met his sister who was going to Notre Dame who was beyond interested, but I had a policy of not messing with close friends family unless they were dicks (he was not).

We go to a bar where a recruiter wanted to take him out since he was their #1 candidate, and he was like you have to meet this guy he is shit hot with tech and a good accountant and one helluva a guy.

A friend I hadn't seen in 3 years (she was a very beautiful woman who dated the "men of Purdue" of calendar, was surrounded by really attractive guys.

I nudge my friend and stated remember my close friend I told you about (we never had sex he knew), there she is. His jaw dropped and said no way and that made the recruiters all look.

I stood up and waved at my friend and walked away from the table and she bolted and jumped in the air and I caught as friends.

I had a job offer that Monday from the company.

Sure my skills were top notch, but ... well there you go ... I always wondered what happened to her as we lost contact (which sucked).

So now my view is to try to empower and make safe in a non-dominating way the way for women. I think guys might realize that ther are some wondeful benefits if you stand up and help.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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