The other view I also found that people never talk to is folks sit in either a high libido (HL) or low libido (LL) camp. So the other way to see it is that it isn’t a gender issue, but a human condition.

In university after I dealt with my stuff, a friend of mine would say man I only love “tight” girls they rock. I personally SMH and after hearing him go over and over it a few times, (including in front of my girlfriend at the time) … it reached a point I said … Please stop.

They both looked at me really wierd ….

I stated, you realize that if she is really tight, she is either a virgin or very tense and not feeling in the mood or comfortable. E.g. if Jennifer next to me feels like that I stop what I am doing, pull out and then go down on her and give her more foreplay and love and safety.

When she is really loose and wet, then I know she is really really into and in the mood. Sure that may mean less sensation for me, but that is a-ok. She is enjoying it and that is what matters.

If I take the example of the past and fast forward it into the future, for women in LL situations, they are not feeling desired or chased or getting the love and attention they need so they shut down in survival mode.

If it is a guy there is a health issue or there is a confidence and trust issue. Given society and equality is happening more and more, and as guys age my guesstimate is you will see my examples happen more and more in life even at a younger age. The factor I do believe will accelerate is this as guys lose confidence in asking women out or being decent or having more intimacy they will turn to more porn for release. This will dull their desire and limit their ability to perform to increases standards for women (note this is not a bad thing … women should have equality in orgasms).

The problem is good lovers and decent men will drop off faster leaving women in a hard lurch which epically sucks.