The reason is porn is developed for where the demand sits. Right now this is how and where men have sex.

I know it sounds sad and awful, but if one steps back and looks at the landscape, the old ways and experiences have been deemed too risky to attempt. You will see a common thread if one listens very carefully around #metoo and other aspects.

So, guys will use this as their goto for release, rinse, wash, repeat.

You are absolutely correct it is not made for women or tasteful, and it does have a corrosive effect on men's sexuality and gender, but guys want and desire release and release often.

Porn offers no shame, no risk, and more pros than partnered sex. So if you are a person that desires and needs connection and other aspects, it won't be a turn on.

My porn viewing has the woman in charge, the woman orgasming and being liberated and enjoying herself and of course I have my own kinks.

IMO, I believe quite a few women realize this and when they go to see where all the guys go and see what they have dropped to get their needs resolved, it is disturbing on many levels.

The kicker to this madness, with COVID and lockdowns, these patterns are being reinforced more and more, and with economic insecurity and the old patriarchal ways devolving in front of every bodies eyes.

Guys will double down hand over fist, which means more consumption of the content that damages all the more.

So when the light of day comes, and people start to reengage, guys will be even number, and the coldness that was reserved between CIS-Het couples via dead bedroom, will happen in the first week to month of a new relationship.

I don't have an answer for this, but I know personally the trail of tears very well, and my pain comes from real trauma combined with the toxic cultures and environments that surround men.

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