The response back to her was "I never knew you were interested, so both our loss then no?"

This has nothing to do with feminism.

Women don't feel safe stepping up because their fear is grounded in violence and fear. Picture how men would feel, if a group of women invited a single guy into their group and then they assaulted him. It would make you as a guy feel the same as being a single guy walking down a dodgy alley at night when a group of guys come at you.


Women desire men's affection and desire in a respectful and authentic way, which is confident and altrustic.

Of course not all women, are like this and women being just like men want a "booty" call, because they have sexual urges and desires for men too.

If you are interested in being a guy that is desirable enough that women actively want to step up and come to you, make sure you are interesting, project safety and stability, and have some basic sense of put togetherness. (dress decent, take basic care, and have interests that say you truly do care about women).

Women don't need to take up the mantle for men, men need to and realize that if we see one of our brothers get "the girl of his dreams" in the right way. We should be happy for him and support him and learn to be friends with these guys. When this happens, the pool of good and authentic men, will outpace the pool of timid "nice" men.

Some guys will say shit this is a lot of work, and yes it is. But the question is does mating and dating the opposite sex excite you and is it something you want? If it is, then you put the energy and effort in. IF not find a tube site, or some fun site and get off and find inner peace by oneself.

Feminism plain and simple is about equality. There is a lot of things women have been fighting for over 140 years with suffrage and folks need to remember that with racism being finally moved into the next phase of the 1960's, women had the same thing happen in the 1970's. It is not something "new", it only has 2-3 generations or about 50 years, versus the structures guys are used to for the last few thousand.

I am married and have struggled in my marriage and self for a long time due to what feminists call the patriarchal forces. I have fought through and by doing so have become a better guy to my wife and those around me. Becoming a feminist helped tremendously, because it helped me look at my problems from a different perspective.

Toxic "guys" should be called out, and men should be doing it. Men should also be the ones talking about masculinity and not women which currently is what is happening, because there is a vacuum in society with this because guys for most of the part have walked away from society.

Nature abhors a vaccum, and women really do desire men, but right now if one looks around, are there authentic men around stepping up and being heard?




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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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