The women in my life that I bonded with more than 30 days had your thread of independence within them.

My current partner can break down a lawn tractor, rebuilt a PTO shaft, literally magically, can fix anything. I look at the shit and say I have no fucking clue, but if it is the internet, mobile, computers, “anything,” I have magic hands. Guys in Texas come in and, as usual, look at me for everything, for the iron posts, to rebuilding our barns from a tornado hit. I cringe because I know I am just Tenille and not the Captain. I do play a kind flight attendant or nurse or water boy.

So when it happens, I tell them don’t look at me, don’t ask me, talk to the boss … for I am not the “man” with the answers she is. Now in this area where compassionate conservatives rule and balance out the raw Trumpian folks since Democrats don’t exist here. I use my white male privilege and large size to hammer it home. This woman is the lead deal with it.

So don’t feel “sad” or “broken” because your bridge-building skills are your core strength, be proud that you rock as a woman with a strong masculine spirit. Full of fun, zest, love, and care, with a woman in charge of the place.

This is why women should lead. My initial reaction when broken was to dive into booze, crazy-ass shit, and then only consensual sex and self-love brought me out of my tailspin.

You actually build things with your hands when hurting. You are a builder and because you are stuck between two places … you are the one that should lead us out.

Never forget that.


Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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