There are complexities and layers in this poem. Make note that I stated this couple's preference was to be monogamous and to be their everything.

It also shares a view of what a confident authentic man can do for his partner, when he finds he may come up short in fulfilling all his desires. He also stated that it was up to her to communicate those desires to him, so he can fulfill them.

There is a reason I stated that the strap-on was larger then her favorite lover. It was meant to show that he was going to be even better then her best lover ever was. He also appreciated the mystery and novelty that we all have and need.

Also, it shows that he shouldn't be underestimated as a man as men can bring it in so many ways.

I also made sure to minimize the fetish nature of it, but you are right there are large fetishes and desires around interracial sex.

I am interested in it also, because I love the contrast, and it is a two way street. I find African, Latina, Persian, Middle Eastern woman extremely sexy and amazing. The contrast of light on dark is great.

When I dug further I figured out there was a biological aspect to it. Why? When I look at my DNA every female with certain genetic traits are my exact opposite.

So that is why also, Irish women also fit too.

The question in relationships and love and intimacy is in finding the communication and trust and vulnerability to feel whole no matter what it entails and to work with your partner to accomplish that together and consensually.

If you take what I said, against the poem and your gut feel, you can start to understand how to work on your masculinity and relationship. That is up to you and there is no shame from me.

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Alan Tegel

Alan Tegel

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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