There is nothing wrong with being single, and there is nothing wrong with being a liberated and independent person in life.
The situation when it becomes toxic is when a person generalizes an entire group of people based upon their personal interactions.
If a person is independent, is self-sufficient, and has a desire for another partner in their life. They are responsible for setting the terms and boundaries that fit and then surrounding themselves with those that match. If one finds that suitable partners do not exist, they either need to search in new areas and re-evaluate the redlines outside of safety concerns and address it.
It is well documented in heteronormative views, that men don't understand women, but the same also occurs in reverse.
Why I can say that is as a guy, we don't have the pools of friends women have built over the generations. The Man box culture has isolated nearly every man in some way and reinforced that separation.
As such, with a lack of feedback, women are not mind readers so they do not know much about masculinity. It does make me chuckle when I have seen some women who have had boys feel they get it because they watch a male child grow, but they only get a little bit more of a glimpse into masculinity.
Both women and men deserve better, men obviously have more of a hill to climb in the social and relationship view of life.
But if one is on top of the hill or near the top, one has to ask is the words being spoken and the actions being done help the one below them up "or" do they create barriers and glass ceilings.
Do note, those guys that are toxic, that neg, that are low value deserve to be at the bottom of the hill.
I am all for women liberation and empowerment, and I am a guy that works on "my issues". But I also do see the very toxic generalizations that come from folks mouths. What I do is take the energy to block and let them flow by not personalizing. I also take note, giving them more then a one-strike policy as some people do because I care for and love people especially women.
We each have are own hells. Love though will always trump hate .... never forget that.
