This post provided me with so many answers to questions, losses, and despair that I have felt from a feminine perspective without the shame and blame that is so prevalent in society.
Your inner share outwards is a pure gift to those that take the time to read it from the heart and soul where there is no physical but purely mental and spiritual.
I read a lot and it took 3x to go through the whole article because it made me hard stop to process what was said, meant and felt. I then was able to read it a second time, and upon finishing it I realize I will need to read it again at a later date.
I lost a few close friends and people that I deeply care for even though through faults of my own created a split on the path to a happy union. I miss them dearly but most importantly I am sad because I know the reason for the fault is me. I am well aware but won’t take the excuses of my past to deflect from the fact it was my fault, but I am also aware the damage the upbringing and society foisted around me and clouded like a Bay Area mist in an early morning to prevent me from seeing clearly.
This article is like the bright sun in that area or in my new home area that burns away that mist and warms ones body from the cold chills of life in that still air we live.
Women are hurting, and men are too very much so. From my male perspective, women should treasure the community and ability to voice their pain and traumas through their community. Men still in this century still are like “Lt. Dan” in Forest Gump who at best have to be tied to the ships mast in the middle of a perfect storm to tell out their anger alone and near the precipice of death to find their inner peace in the storm of sexuality and raw male energy and loss. The sad part is in conquering that demon, a vast majority of men lose their inner boy and the flame goes out. Society states buck up buttercup, man up under appreciating that sparks of life need the help and hearth of warmth of live to dry out to be able to be resparked to life. Should it be just women? No, but if women fear for their safety with men, imagine being a man amongst men knowing what we know.
As such, the wick never dries and is relit, and if it is done it is done through pure fantasy fueled by list which is never sustainable in the long term.
I scratch my words with a stick in the sand of the beach of life here for others to read in the hope someone puts it on paper in the bottle thrown back out to sea in the hopes others can find it and learn to fix this for our boys growing up and men currently lost.
Never feel bad about being desired, because as a guy 90% plus of us also have the body issues and are clueless to being hunted and desired, and the 10% of the guys that do have the tendency to abuse that gift.
For those humans that are blessed with crossed spirits and biology, also understand the message is meant for those male spirited biological females in the same boat, just like Yaels comments are for the feminine spirit in a male package.
Thank you for the gift of the article. It made for a superb Saturday.