Ena Dahl, this was a fantastic article. One of the things I would love to do is to be able to break down the last hard wall that has forced a demisexual view on me.

Don’t get me wrong, if my partner prefers couples privilege and monogamy, and I am all in.

The thing is I have a feeling that to be entirely free, and I need this “demisexual” thing gone. I know that isn’t very articulate, but it is just a gut feel.

I half wonder if I had a real solid base of friends, and I was done with my current relationship, AND I processed and healed from the breakup. I wonder if being able to to do this, would remove the last main shackle in me.

Until I read this, I couldn’t get a substantial thought on it. Both you and Sarah Stroh and Joe Duncan write about these topics in a way that makes sense to me.

I believe that I am “built” for unconditional love. I wonder how does that play out in this Friend-Sex paradigm.

So many questions, so little experience, but I feel safe and secure enough to ask.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.

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