To go there requires a person or better with a partner obviously (and great communication / observation sklls), to employ edging and orgasm denial to train the guy.
Some guys will say OMG no .. gimme now. The thing I found is when you are "there" before the final twitch you get 90% of the pleasure. So picture stringing 90% out for a while and then boom.
As for women, can you imagine the seduction of male desire as the ramp up and down occurs and the net effect (my phrase for it is "male tears") when the final explosion occurs.
What can make this most fun ... is if oral with the female is partner is done ...