Totally agree. I also hope to figure out ways to get my partner to understand this that her statements while candid and living in radical candor, actually cut and gut to the bone of the person.

Meanwhile, I hope for a world were anonymous posts go way of the dodo and where there is no shame or blame, just to be used for those in truly horrible positions of severe abuse or trying to cry out to resolve a real issue and real trauma.

For anyone else (in that world) to live anonymous is to live fake, but given the patriarchies madona-whore complex issue women need this to feel safe and for that .... there is no shame, just a hope we can fix this stuff before i take my last breath.

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.