Tremendous piece. During the times of great disconnect, and sexting and masturbation from a distance happens, here is my suggestion to men who really love women "a lot".

Plan a date or night where you work with her while she masturbates. Focus on her, of course rev yourself up.

Then help her get off and aim for multiple if you can.

Then when she is done talk to her, comfort/chat with her. Then state I would love to get off, but let's do it together tomorrow night together.

Extra bonus points if you take the time to contact her first thing in the morning, and whisper the sweet things that get her excited and say remember last night maybe you should do it again.

Does it make you uncomfortable or crazy and sound crazy. Sure. But remember this that feeling is coming from a place of pure selfishness, if you really love the woman and desire her with all her heart you want her to be at your same level.

Lift her hand and head up, relieve the stress and boost her up. There is no doubt in my mind when you have a woman that has been repressed by society, she will definitely lend you a hand and lift you up and the feeling will be doubly amazing.

Us men have that spark that comes from nothing. One can't presume to spark infinitely and not burn out the "system". One has to stop, let it build and use the power of her desire and femininity to provide the extra energy to light an even bigger spark and flame.

Thank you for a fantastic response from the female point of view!


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