Unless the dick is a grilled to perfection sausage or link, and it is accompanied by a plate of stuffed blueberry pancakes topped with raspberries, blueberries, strawberries and whipped cream ...

The dirty secret I don't think people ever talk too is that even in partnered up relationships that last past the hormonal stages, it happens. In fact the longer the relationship, the increased possibility that it will cycle.

Broken hearts, trust, dead bedrooms, deadened souls due to life, love or lack of real love. Misconnection due to a lack of chemistry or mismatch at some level. It happens as no one is a perfect match, and as dreamy as "the soul mate" or "twin flame" is, the reality is we will find them. But the fates will look at us and laugh heartily and say "well we are going to get you hooked up with someone less perfect so we can watch you both roast".

Will a person get over the loss? No. All that will happen is we will learn to manage the pain and loss and figure out how to put in an open box and slide it to the black hole of disconnection we have in all of us. Folks don't seem to get because of our disjointed male and female spirits and lack of true oneness, we are all incomplete. Anyone that says they aren't, is in denial of some sort due to trauma or some deficiency that they can't fathom or deal with.

Now there will alwasy be those fairy tale relationships that folks will say "hey what about X". We can even say you know what .. you are right!

But then I will state, they will still break your heart. Why? Because they will die, and then what.

It is better to have loved and lost than not loved at all is very true. Why? Because if one doesn't love, they don't realize they are loving something. Their dark inner fear demon, who won't give you touch, feels smells, love, or anything in return.

I do wish you continued strength and power through the pain on your journey. You as do many other women I have had such positive energy and communication with (even falling away friends) deserve the very best partners and joy and laughter and sex and most importantly.

Pancakes .... lots and lots of pancakes to be enjoyed while one doesn't see the partners head as it is busy :)


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