We are far away from what was the 1990’s so that is a positive step (or inch) forward. What is interesting and fascinating to me is that I have been using a feminist view of life to try to rebuild my masculinity. It may seem perverse, but when the dials of masculinity versus femininty were reset combined with the dials of sexuality all in one swoop. It allows one the perspective to understand life a little bit better as a born binary CIS person in a non binary life. I am still very much a guy that loves women very much, and desires all kinds of crazy cool things sex wise with women.
I am intimately aware of the need for respect driven consent in relationships. I also have learned through my travels (I didn’t live like a monk) that if guys really knew if they built the right communication and build the trust and safety with their female partner … they will be surprised to realize that her sexuality will far overrun the guys in a big way.