We are what we make of our relationships. What I have learned is listening and learning from others can help one another in our personal joys and struggles achieve and win.
To quote the Care Bears of the 1980s …. sharing is caring :)
One thing I found out in my travels, is you can truly enjoy submission deeper when you also learn to dominate. Since I used the 1980’s reference … it is akin to M.A.D (mutually assured destruction) with nuclear detente. When the roles can be flipped it helps the teaching of boundaries and allows through trust and communication the expansion of those boundaries and in some cases in the long term the removal of them completely which IMO is the best goal for two (or more) people.
What makes it hard but simple to understand for some women (given some love to be dominated) is that the same joy of release women feel upon surrender … men desire it too. The only difference is males views may have a more charged emotion with it given the flammability and potency of the male sexual spirit (do note when women switch to teenage boys they get a taste of it too with the caveat that they have the knowledge and experience of time to help manage it).