What happens when a person denies something they really really like, does it make them happy, sad, mad, or glad?
Repeat over and over and over for decades, and better yet have it explode on you as a boy at the age of 8–12 with no preparation at all.
Of course men should control their urges, if you are not CIS/hetero, then it will be about the looks of how a man looks …. rinse wash repeat.
Then in a flip, twist, and screw … when a guy gets into a safe, consensual, and intact relationship the body says meh …. seen it before, so I will actively turn it off (and the woman is saying WTF).