What I have learned is if my current relationship ends (with the acknowledgement of my failures). I very much hope to be friends with women and to build a community where I can talk, share and be trusted, and then take the rest from there.
I don’t know if that will help guys out or is a bad things, but the one thing I learned along the way is I want to be with a person with a feminine and masculine spirit that matches my “holes” that we can have fun, learn, and grow … and then add and build on the desire and intimacy from there.
I like using analogies with some things ….
I personally don’t find great enjoyment now with transactional intimacy, due to the fact that my sexuality was limited (i.e. lack of sexual liberation). Until that is repaired connection is Queen/King.
So … I look at intimacy like driving a car … one in these situations can go to the local rental car place … pick up a fantastic car and enjoy it for the weekend (consent always mind you).
Or … one can find a car and work on it together and build something fantastic that will last and drive together … something that one can own and ride for life with, the thing is …. it will take more than a weekend.
So when I see biological males (do note .. I am not going to dirty the word men for them) …. do marketing campaigns like this … it disgusts me because it is such an objectification of a person … yuck. It angers me because people like me who may (or may not) be in the future back in the market will never be trusted because of the damage they do …. It makes me sad because it creates a longing in both my soul and another where we are alone and thristy (we all know sad examples of this).
So … for those CIS-het females out there thirsty …. I cheer you own to find the healing you need from women. No fetish or sexualization need apply, I am truly happy for those that are getting their souls filled with love, care, and tenderness.
For the guys out there … seriously …. grow up and mature. IT hurts, it is hard, and it isn’t easy but …. nothing that is great in life is easy.