What I have learned over the past few years is that while I have the trauma that women have dealt with, and a whole host of shit that my therapist stated she knows would have caused men to end their life .... I am in a position, where I do not have the ability to ad hoc use laughter and comedy (esp. dark) in general public.

Why? The damage that has been done too many people has caused so much pain and hurt to women and many others that no good can come from it.

That doesn't mean I can't have humor and jest with people in my circle as long as consent is there.

Call it a cost of life, I see it as a personal challenge to create more wholesome discussion, or better yet use the time to actively listen. Let women and others post their views and anger and what not, provide context and discussion in the comments, but make it supportive.

On the flip side since I rebuilt my masculinity to be better, that also means not just any biological female gains access to it either. Note I am using the phrases because I am holding up good and high standards for women too in my life to ensure they don't embrace the partner demon of toxic masculinity which is toxic femininity a.k.a. "The Karens".

Women and others minorities do get free passes to expel anger and use words to vent the shit storm of their life, and those in power have to learn to listen. When whites and males become a minority or equality is had for a small period of time (or in industries where women are in charge etc). Then the shoe will be on the other foot.

The issue though as I see it is a lot of biological males will go crash in the basement and will and may do this and will require call outs. Then society can deal with the fact that the toxic masculinity that was allowed to damage so many men for decades will have to have it's moment of karmic comeuppance. I am sure women will be able to weather the storm just fine obviously, but the society will be a small dying shell of what it could be, since everyone will be dark and alone and thirsty for one another ....

Tucker Carlson is deplorable in that I am sorry you can't blame one writer for this kind of stuff. One lives in a baking oven culture where he lead this hot toxic cookie out to the world.

For guys ... become feminists, listen and learn and it will help you in ways you won't understand. For news get "real" newspapers, and if the NY Times offends you deeply .... go grab a USA Today, a local paper that is balanced and if you can't find one ... there are good ones like the Dallas Morning News which may help give you some balanced views of real news in America.

But most importantly ... be empathic and listen and don't troll

Lover of people, Texas Feminist Liberal Democrat, Horse Farm, High Tech Gadget ENFP Guy, and someone who appreciates the struggle of women and wants to help.